You can pray for the person, you can pray for the situation, but you can never make someone love you. Remember that your attempt is seen by a Holy God, and that their rejection is not a reflection of you, but it is a reflection of their heart.
Though we tend to mourn what we have lost in a relationship, focus on what you have in your other relationships. Put your love and energy into building on those relationships. We can mourn to a point where we are not nurturing what we have in the here and now.
Often people who are bitter want to hurt other people. It may be that they are not content in their own lives, and they do not like seeing someone else who has what they want. It is a sad state of their heart and their mind. The Word says that we are to not be envious. It says it is "the rottenness of the bones". That is a very strong statement. It speaks of having a sound heart over envy. Contentment does come from a heart that longs for Him and the things of Him. Those things that moth and rust cannot destroy. When people envy, they have not received the contentment that comes from the simple things in life and in a true relationship with a loving Father.
People will envy, they will judge, they will hold past mistakes against you, they will hold grudges. All we can do is try to make things right and then continue pray for their hearts. After that we cannot force them to love us or even like us. Do not harden your own heart and become bitter because of their situation. If you have done what you can, and what the Word instructs, you need to move on in prayer. Bitterness will only rob you of your own joy, it will allow satan to control you and there can be no true Biblical love when we are harboring bitterness in our hearts.
I read this quote today . . . "It does not take a rifle-bullet to destroy a life. Men have died from little scratch-wounds." (by J.R. Miller)
Do not let the wounds of bitterness, the wounds of people who cast stones, the wounds from a relationship that you cannot restore due to someone with a bitter heart continue to destroy your or your life.
In Christ we have the power to overcome the hurt of a broken relationship. The Word tells us that He heals the broken-hearted and He binds up our wounds. If you have done what you can, move forward in those truths. Seek shelter in the shadow of His wings. Remember that your most important relationship is the one you have with the Lord. He loves you and is there for you and He seeks a relationship with you. He is always with us.
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze” (Isaiah 43:2).
Seek Him for he his always gracious, and then walk in the Love that can only come from Him.
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
1 Corinthians 13
In His Love ~ Kim